November 18 | Regulating Self: Restoring and Protecting our Emotional Health + Q&A
Presenter: Dr. Hillary McBride
Cost: Free (sponsored by CBWC)
Emotions have a central role in our ability to experience life fully, stay safe, feel connected to others and ourselves, and know when it’s time to set boundaries. The academic literature has created compelling empirical evidence that emotional regulation, specifically lack thereof, is one of the central predictors and mental illness, low relationship satisfaction, and poor academic and job performance. However, in our sociocultural context and faith communities, emotions have not always been understood, let alone celebrated, as central tenants to our health or thriving. Emotions have been something we have learned to mistrust, fear, and shove down. This presentation will focus on understanding emotional health, the role of emotions in our overall well-being including preventing burn out and experiencing joy, and the introduction of skills practice to work on experiencing and regulating emotions for the protection of pastor’s mental health and thriving.
About Hillary: Dr. Hillary McBride is a registered clinical counsellor in private practice in Vancouver who recently completed her PhD in Counselling Psychology at UBC. When she is not doing clinical work she is researching, speaking, and writing. Her areas of clinical and research specialty focus on the intersection of spirituality and mental health, trauma, and trauma therapies, embodiment, eating disorders, body image, sex and sexuality, and feminist approaches to psychology. Hillary’s work has been recognized by both the American and Canadian Psychological Associations, and she was recently awarded the International Young Investigator Award for her research contributions so early in her career. In 2017, she published her first book with Post Hill Press—Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are, and she is the senior editor of a textbook, Embodiment and Eating Disorders: Theory, Research, Prevention and Treatment, which came out in 2018. Her next book This is my Body will be out February 2021. You can hear her work as a co-host on The Liturgists Podcast and as the host of CBC podcast Other People’s Problems.
November 30 | Facilitating Crucial Conversations: Deescalating Negative Conflict During Times of Uncertainty and Change (Interactive Zoom + Q&A)
Presenter: Alan Simpson
Cost: Free (sponsored by CBWC)
This 90min interactive course will focus on how to navigate crucial but difficult conversation as a leader in this next normal of ministry.
In a recent survey of CBWC pastors, they were asked about the kind of support they needed in this next season. Several responses asked for resources in having crucial but difficult conversations in a season of change and disruption. Emotional expressions are high, reactivity is high, and leaders need to navigate and lead well through an incredibly challenging season. Increased conflict between board members and congregants are a result of the drastic changes in the midst of trying to figure out how to re-engage community in a hybrid version of church.
The goal of this webinar is to support pastors and leader in having these crucial but difficult conversations. The following topics are a sample of what we will cover in the 90 minutes.
- A model for understanding and responding to the threat mode that triggers negative behaviours.
- Using empathic responses to acknowledge the other persons state of mind and heart.
- Understanding the use of question to clarify assumptions and create a shared meaning.
- A model for dealing with difficult situation or behaviours that need to change.
- Building confidence in conducting a crucial conversation through attentive listening and assertive speaking.
- Setting up and conducting a collaborative conversation to solve problems.
- Staying centered in Christ while navigating immature or harsh responses from others.
- Managing your circle of concern while focusing on your circle of influence.
- Understanding and working with change, grief and conflict for a better pathway forward.
About Alan: Alan Simpson is a facilitator, instructor, and mediator for individuals and groups. He provides engagement processes and training seminars for leaders and their organizations. He has 30 years of experience in pastoring, coaching and training adults, families and organizations in communication skills, change management and conflict engagement. He has worked with businesses, schools, government staff, non-profit boards and faith-based organizations. His offerings include leadership development, board management, team building, and group facilitation for difficult conversations. He has conducted 50 plus organizational health/conflict assessment and coached the leaders of 100’s of church in Canada.
Alan is a currently a faculty instructor for the Justice Institute of BC in the leadership and conflict resolution departments. He also has a private practice that provides conversational facilitation, interest-based mediation and individual coaching for manager, supervisors and their employees. He lives and plays in the Okanagan but works anywhere and online.